I have mad a promise to myself this year to be more present in my life and to be more aware of my surroundings. You see my life mostly consisted of working (which I love) a ton, starting a new life (which I love), expanding on my career and doing things for others. I never had balance in any of this. This year it changes. I am going to balance things out and take the time to be present in my life. What I mean by that is to not be on automatic pilot anymore or in a rush to do the next thing and only choose to do things if they are to my highest good. I am a great mentor but sometimes I need to stop and listen to my own advise. One of the things I say to my clients is " this is your life, if it is not the way you want it, shame on you". We have total control of our lives and if it is not the way we want it then we should change it. It is never too late for change. We should never feel like it is too much work for us to change our lives either because then we are telling ourselves that we are not worth our own effort and time.
    
​ Soooo anyway with this all being said, the other day I was at Walmart (my favorite place... NOT) heading towards my car, I was enjoying the beautiful day and noticed there was a man looking at my car magnets. I have magnets for Soul To Soul on my car. He walked away slowly and headed towards his car that was near mine. As I started to approach my car he stopped and looked at me and then continued to walk to his car. The entire time he kept looking at me as if he wanted to say something. When I got to my car I noticed his mother was there in spirit. She said to me "do it". I said "do what"? She said "go talk to him". This whole time he is still just sitting in his car. I got in my car and I said to her "ok if I go over there what do you want me to say?". I do not like to just walk up to people and do an impromptu. So she started to talk to me and I notice that we are both in our cars now looking at each other. When things line up I know that they are meant to happen.

I got out of my car and went over to his. I stood about 3 feet away and asked if I could talk to him. He said yes and got out. He started to tear up before I even said anything. lol I have that effect on people. I said I noticed that you noticed the magnets on my car so I guess you know what I do. He said yes with more tears coming to his eyes. I told him your mother is here and she is sorry she left before your wedding but wanted you to know she was there and you looked so happy and handsome. She said that she was in the hospital with you when you went in because of cancer. Then his wife came in from spirit. I told him that his wife is here with us as well. I told him that she said "I am still going to keep our promise" and he just collapsed crying. I also told him that she said "do you remember Lily of the Valley?". He started to laugh. He told me that she pointed out once to him these little white flowers that she liked. One day he wanted to buy her flowers but could not remember what they looked like or what they were called. He went to a florist and picked Lily of the Valley and had the lady wrap them for him. He brought them home and she looked at them in a strange manor. He said "is there something wrong?". She said "were there to be flowers in there?". He said they are flowers. So that was always something special to them.  He said to me " up until right now, I never believed in this stuff but deep down wanted it to be possible. Thank you for sharing your amazing gift."

As the new year starts we take time to look back on the past year or years. Whether it's relationships, jobs, careers, family, life and how we live it. What you need to understand is nothing has to stay the same if you are not happy or satisfied. Remember this is YOUR life. Make it the way you want for you and your highest good. Other people do not have to like the changes or desires that you seek but that is fine because it is not their life. Many people tend to respond to peoples different desires with prejudicial reactions. How can someone else know what is best for you? Most people don't even know what is good for themselves. They give you advise based on their fears, wants, needs and desires and rarely is the advise given to you for your happiness or enjoyment.
​ Some people think they are too old to make changes... I disagree! If you are still living then there is time to do what excites you for you to LIVE your life. If you have wanted to finish school, change jobs, move or even release an unhealthy relationship, this is the time to do it. You have hidden strength within that you have to tap into to pick yourself up and get going. So this is a new yew.... is it time for a new year? If you are happy with who you are then celebrate and be the best you that you can be. Smile and share your loveliness with others and make them wonder and maybe smile just because you did. We were put on this earth to live and be the best we can be........... Happy New Year

Most of the time loved ones come to visit the family around holidays for many reasons. Maybe they miss those times together or wish it was like that when they were still living. Maybe hoping to connect with a loved one even for a short moment. I have heard some people say that they did not want family members to come and visit because they were afraid that there loved one would be stuck here. No need to worry, that would never happen. There are many times that we say " I wish my daddy was here to be with the family for Christmas". They hear what you think and say and try very hard to be there. They miss us as much as we miss them.

Have you ever had the feeling someone is watching you or feel like you are not alone in the house when you are the only one there? Chances are your loved one is giving you that feeling to let you know that they are there with you. Have you ever gotten a quick chill either on one side or your back? That is a sign someone is there with you. You see, we make it hard to "communicate" with spirit because we are the type of people that need hard proof. Like if we feel dad is here with us then we will say or think "if that is really you dad make something move". It is not that easy for them to do that and chances of that happening are slim. Sometimes we want a visit so bad that when it is really happening, we tend to ruin the moment by wanting a major sign.

We may be thinking of someone, for example I will use my dad. The other day I was thinking about him and how much I miss him. At that very moment a Reese's peanut butter cup commercial came on TV and I knew that was his way of communicating with me to let me know he was there. That was his favorite candy.  I smiled.  Some times you may hear a song or read a phrase out of the blue that reminds you of someone. That is their way of letting you know they are there. It is no coincidence. The only real problem with communicating with them is that we make our lives so busy that we never take the time to just be still and listen or feel. So I want you to think back over the holidays at what happened and look at pics. I am sure you will find or remember something to prove that you really did have those special visitors there that you had hoped for. It is a beautiful connection when it happens but you have to take the time. Isn't is worth it?

With the new year upon us we tend to look back on the last year for many reasons. Whether it is to heal from it, learn from it, improve on it, change it or to release it, we must do what is to our highest good. At times things happen in our lives and we do not understand why until later in our lives. It is important for you to understand that you have control over your life. If your life is not the way you want it then please know you have the ability to change it. Yes there are times where you will need courage, strength, determination, understanding and a lot of patience but you can do it. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE!!! We tend to grow up being told how to be and form ourselves through examples of what we saw or experienced. We are constant givers to our own detriment. We get angry because we are so busy that we have no time for ourselves because we give our time to so many different people who are not appreciative of us or what we do. We need to release those people that are not to our highest good. Some people even give their time to seek approval from others. We do not need anyones approval but our own. If you start to change your life and how you live it and certain people can't except it or you anymore then it is your spirit guides and higher power helping to remove those people from your life. Once you release those that are not to your highest good it will leave room for more positive people to come into your life.