What is "being PERFECT"?  A lot of times we worry about what others are going to say or think about what we do or don't do. Because of this we strive to go way out of our normal comfort zone or desire to be excepted and appear to be perfect in others eyes. This is so crazy but we have all lived this scenario at least once in our lives and I am sure some are still living this way. Let me ask you a question.... are you happy living this way? Of course you aren't. If you are then you are looking for approval in all the wrong places instead of from within. You are not living true to yourself.

We shouldn't do things we do not want to do just to please others at our own expense. This is YOUR life so live it in a way that truly makes you happy. If people get upset with you because you have decided to change your life to fit YOUR highest good then they were never really a true friend anyway. Don't be afraid of losing so called friends because that will make more room for the amazing people that really deserve you in their lives and except you for who you are and your choices. What ever you do, DO NOT think "what did I do for them to not like me or to make them leave". Think of it as your higher power taking them out of your life because they are not deserving of you.  

​Take this time to develop the life YOU want and live it. So now you need to define what perfect is to YOU. Maybe you feel your life is perfect the way you created it already or maybe there are things you were afraid to do, try or have put it off........ please do it. Now to set you at ease.... there is no such thing as perfect but what ever makes you happy is as perfect as you are going to get. Stop worrying about what others think because it is not their life and it just doesn't matter. Love you for you!!!

When you were little, you always had parents that would tell you right from wrong. While at school you had your teachers to guide you. While away with family you have them to guide you. When you ventured off to play with neighbor kids or friends, well this is when you started to make some decisions on your own with no guidance. Sometimes they were good and sometimes they weren't.  If we listened to our intuition or gut instinct we would know that we were being guided towards our highest good (This is something adults still have trouble doing regularly but should listen more). We start to learn fear from an early age and we allow it to get stronger as we get older. You see, fear keeps us from living .... living our dreams, living our wants and living our desires. Many people get to the end of their lives wishing that they would have done many things that fear kept them from. Now I am not saying fear is not a good thing, I am just saying a lot of us allow it to control us instead of us controlling it. Ask your self instead of whats the worst thing that can happen, see what the best things are that can happen. Some people are afraid to fly and never get on planes or it takes them a long time to eventually fly. I use to be that way, then I realized all the amazing people, places and things that I was missing. Now I fly with ease. You see I have the belief that when it is our time to go there is nothing we can do to change it. I have done so many things that most people wouldn't and in fact people have told that they are living vicariously through me.  LOL

Say you have an opportunity to move to a new state or even a new country. Well here comes the thought process..... how will we do this...but what happens if.... will we be happy..... everything needs to be changed ie doctors, dentists, kids are still in school and so on. You consume your mind with EVERYTHING that you feel needs to be done before you take that first step so it all seems to be very overwhelming and undesirable. Just decide to do it and take the first step. No everything isn't easy but somethings will be and you will see your true reason of why the opportunity came up to you in the first place. Maybe the kids will be better off at a new school and they will make better friends and love the different ways of being taught.

Many years ago I had the opportunity to move to Mexico and I did. Yes there was a lot to do and good and bad things happened but I do not regret ever moving there. I have picked up and moved to many different states and I am still alive. I have done it while my kids were young and still in school and my kids are amazing adults.

​Another example: I have this friend who has been going through major life changes and one of them was a divorce. After the divorce it was like she was stuck but wanted more. She was worried about everything from A- to Z and not getting anywhere. I did a reading for her a few times and every time I would bring these few things up that she was guided to do a while ago but the fear of the unknown kept her from doing it. Well this last reading was an ass kicker for her. She FINALLY took that first step and literally every thing fell into place. You see you need confidence in yourself and your strength and then you can get through anything. Take that chance, that step, that desire to do the things you want and have wanted to do. 
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 There is so much to be thankful for. I took some time to reflect back on my life and I am so thankful for everything that has happened, both good or bad. You see everything happens for a reason. We may never understand why at the time but we will eventually know why in time. I realized that when good things happen we forget to be thankful and appreciate them at the time but when bad things happen we will get mad and complain right away. You see it is like manifesting. I hear people say all the time "Murphy's law, just my luck or wow always me". What people don't know is that they are manifesting the negative by saying that. Instead of saying these things or something similar,  think of a positive in EVERY situation and talk or comment about that. Eventually you will see more positives in your life and less bad.

Recently something of high monetary value was stolen from me but I felt an unexpected feeling of relief. I was not angry at all. Then I realized that what was stolen from me held horrible negative energy and even though it had a high financial value it was harming me energetically. So I feel like I ultimately was blessed because the negativity and bad energy was removed from my life.  I can also be a perfectionist and I am realizing that this can add negativity into my life. Recently when my family came to visit over the holiday I wanted everything to be perfect as always and had many things planned for all to do. For the first time in my life I allowed others to help with different things and just let the days play out. It was so stress free and enjoyable. It was one of the best Thanksgivings ever for me. I was able to relax and enjoy it WITH family. 

Take time everyday to say what you are thankful for and who you are thankful for.  People call me the manifesting queen because it seems like when I put something out into the universe, it happens. I know it may be hard to make that conscious switch for yourself right away but you WILL notice the difference in your life when you finally do. Negative feeling and emotions hold horrible energy within your being's but the same goes that positive feelings will bring positive energy into your being. You will feel light and free and so alive. Society and life has taught us to complain but you have the ability to change that.  Yes we are human and we will slip up but as long as we catch ourselves and correct it we will be training ourselves to stop living in the negative and move into the positive.

 The new year is coming. Start to make those changes now so they they are becoming habit for the new year and the new ​you.

Photos of our beach day for Thanksgiving celebration.