Most of the time loved ones come to visit the family around holidays for many reasons. Maybe they miss those times together or wish it was like that when they were still living. Maybe hoping to connect with a loved one even for a short moment. I have heard some people say that they did not want family members to come and visit because they were afraid that there loved one would be stuck here. No need to worry, that would never happen. There are many times that we say " I wish my daddy was here to be with the family for Christmas". They hear what you think and say and try very hard to be there. They miss us as much as we miss them.

Have you ever had the feeling someone is watching you or feel like you are not alone in the house when you are the only one there? Chances are your loved one is giving you that feeling to let you know that they are there with you. Have you ever gotten a quick chill either on one side or your back? That is a sign someone is there with you. You see, we make it hard to "communicate" with spirit because we are the type of people that need hard proof. Like if we feel dad is here with us then we will say or think "if that is really you dad make something move". It is not that easy for them to do that and chances of that happening are slim. Sometimes we want a visit so bad that when it is really happening, we tend to ruin the moment by wanting a major sign.

We may be thinking of someone, for example I will use my dad. The other day I was thinking about him and how much I miss him. At that very moment a Reese's peanut butter cup commercial came on TV and I knew that was his way of communicating with me to let me know he was there. That was his favorite candy.  I smiled.  Some times you may hear a song or read a phrase out of the blue that reminds you of someone. That is their way of letting you know they are there. It is no coincidence. The only real problem with communicating with them is that we make our lives so busy that we never take the time to just be still and listen or feel. So I want you to think back over the holidays at what happened and look at pics. I am sure you will find or remember something to prove that you really did have those special visitors there that you had hoped for. It is a beautiful connection when it happens but you have to take the time. Isn't is worth it?

With the new year upon us we tend to look back on the last year for many reasons. Whether it is to heal from it, learn from it, improve on it, change it or to release it, we must do what is to our highest good. At times things happen in our lives and we do not understand why until later in our lives. It is important for you to understand that you have control over your life. If your life is not the way you want it then please know you have the ability to change it. Yes there are times where you will need courage, strength, determination, understanding and a lot of patience but you can do it. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE!!! We tend to grow up being told how to be and form ourselves through examples of what we saw or experienced. We are constant givers to our own detriment. We get angry because we are so busy that we have no time for ourselves because we give our time to so many different people who are not appreciative of us or what we do. We need to release those people that are not to our highest good. Some people even give their time to seek approval from others. We do not need anyones approval but our own. If you start to change your life and how you live it and certain people can't except it or you anymore then it is your spirit guides and higher power helping to remove those people from your life. Once you release those that are not to your highest good it will leave room for more positive people to come into your life. 

What is "being PERFECT"?  A lot of times we worry about what others are going to say or think about what we do or don't do. Because of this we strive to go way out of our normal comfort zone or desire to be excepted and appear to be perfect in others eyes. This is so crazy but we have all lived this scenario at least once in our lives and I am sure some are still living this way. Let me ask you a question.... are you happy living this way? Of course you aren't. If you are then you are looking for approval in all the wrong places instead of from within. You are not living true to yourself.

We shouldn't do things we do not want to do just to please others at our own expense. This is YOUR life so live it in a way that truly makes you happy. If people get upset with you because you have decided to change your life to fit YOUR highest good then they were never really a true friend anyway. Don't be afraid of losing so called friends because that will make more room for the amazing people that really deserve you in their lives and except you for who you are and your choices. What ever you do, DO NOT think "what did I do for them to not like me or to make them leave". Think of it as your higher power taking them out of your life because they are not deserving of you.  

​Take this time to develop the life YOU want and live it. So now you need to define what perfect is to YOU. Maybe you feel your life is perfect the way you created it already or maybe there are things you were afraid to do, try or have put it off........ please do it. Now to set you at ease.... there is no such thing as perfect but what ever makes you happy is as perfect as you are going to get. Stop worrying about what others think because it is not their life and it just doesn't matter. Love you for you!!!

When you were little, you always had parents that would tell you right from wrong. While at school you had your teachers to guide you. While away with family you have them to guide you. When you ventured off to play with neighbor kids or friends, well this is when you started to make some decisions on your own with no guidance. Sometimes they were good and sometimes they weren't.  If we listened to our intuition or gut instinct we would know that we were being guided towards our highest good (This is something adults still have trouble doing regularly but should listen more). We start to learn fear from an early age and we allow it to get stronger as we get older. You see, fear keeps us from living .... living our dreams, living our wants and living our desires. Many people get to the end of their lives wishing that they would have done many things that fear kept them from. Now I am not saying fear is not a good thing, I am just saying a lot of us allow it to control us instead of us controlling it. Ask your self instead of whats the worst thing that can happen, see what the best things are that can happen. Some people are afraid to fly and never get on planes or it takes them a long time to eventually fly. I use to be that way, then I realized all the amazing people, places and things that I was missing. Now I fly with ease. You see I have the belief that when it is our time to go there is nothing we can do to change it. I have done so many things that most people wouldn't and in fact people have told that they are living vicariously through me.  LOL

Say you have an opportunity to move to a new state or even a new country. Well here comes the thought process..... how will we do this...but what happens if.... will we be happy..... everything needs to be changed ie doctors, dentists, kids are still in school and so on. You consume your mind with EVERYTHING that you feel needs to be done before you take that first step so it all seems to be very overwhelming and undesirable. Just decide to do it and take the first step. No everything isn't easy but somethings will be and you will see your true reason of why the opportunity came up to you in the first place. Maybe the kids will be better off at a new school and they will make better friends and love the different ways of being taught.

Many years ago I had the opportunity to move to Mexico and I did. Yes there was a lot to do and good and bad things happened but I do not regret ever moving there. I have picked up and moved to many different states and I am still alive. I have done it while my kids were young and still in school and my kids are amazing adults.

​Another example: I have this friend who has been going through major life changes and one of them was a divorce. After the divorce it was like she was stuck but wanted more. She was worried about everything from A- to Z and not getting anywhere. I did a reading for her a few times and every time I would bring these few things up that she was guided to do a while ago but the fear of the unknown kept her from doing it. Well this last reading was an ass kicker for her. She FINALLY took that first step and literally every thing fell into place. You see you need confidence in yourself and your strength and then you can get through anything. Take that chance, that step, that desire to do the things you want and have wanted to do. 
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 There is so much to be thankful for. I took some time to reflect back on my life and I am so thankful for everything that has happened, both good or bad. You see everything happens for a reason. We may never understand why at the time but we will eventually know why in time. I realized that when good things happen we forget to be thankful and appreciate them at the time but when bad things happen we will get mad and complain right away. You see it is like manifesting. I hear people say all the time "Murphy's law, just my luck or wow always me". What people don't know is that they are manifesting the negative by saying that. Instead of saying these things or something similar,  think of a positive in EVERY situation and talk or comment about that. Eventually you will see more positives in your life and less bad.

Recently something of high monetary value was stolen from me but I felt an unexpected feeling of relief. I was not angry at all. Then I realized that what was stolen from me held horrible negative energy and even though it had a high financial value it was harming me energetically. So I feel like I ultimately was blessed because the negativity and bad energy was removed from my life.  I can also be a perfectionist and I am realizing that this can add negativity into my life. Recently when my family came to visit over the holiday I wanted everything to be perfect as always and had many things planned for all to do. For the first time in my life I allowed others to help with different things and just let the days play out. It was so stress free and enjoyable. It was one of the best Thanksgivings ever for me. I was able to relax and enjoy it WITH family. 

Take time everyday to say what you are thankful for and who you are thankful for.  People call me the manifesting queen because it seems like when I put something out into the universe, it happens. I know it may be hard to make that conscious switch for yourself right away but you WILL notice the difference in your life when you finally do. Negative feeling and emotions hold horrible energy within your being's but the same goes that positive feelings will bring positive energy into your being. You will feel light and free and so alive. Society and life has taught us to complain but you have the ability to change that.  Yes we are human and we will slip up but as long as we catch ourselves and correct it we will be training ourselves to stop living in the negative and move into the positive.

 The new year is coming. Start to make those changes now so they they are becoming habit for the new year and the new ​you.

Photos of our beach day for Thanksgiving celebration.

When a spirit wants to talk to someone, they will do everything they can and take every opportunity to get the message across. 

Back In May 2015,
I went to visit Trevor in Florida. One morning I just woke up and while in bed I checked my work emails. I was responding to this lady and did a long voice to text response to her email. When I looked at the message before sending it, all it said was  " yes I will be your wife".  I looked at it again because nothing of what I had said in the voice to text would sound like that. I was shocked. I showed Trevor and he was speechless. Before leaving to go to Florida I felt something "special" may happen while I was on this trip and engagement had crossed my mind. Later that evening his sister Shirley, (she was visiting from the UK for 2 weeks) Trevor and I went out to this beautiful restaurant. Our table was in the middle of the restaurant, kind of making me feel that night it might happen. Trevor was so nervous and acting weird. But, there he was on his knee proposing to me. So beautiful and unforgettable. I know that message came through on my phone as a way of my dad approving of Trevor. It meant a lot to me to get that message from him. ​

It seems like Trevor's mom had been waiting a long time to chat with him. This was good and bad for me. Good because when she came to me to give messages. They were always accurate and right on so this helped me to help Trevor see and understand what I do and how great I am at doing it. lol Bad because she would always come to me even on my off hours.  Apparently they think they are exempt from my rules. lol

One evening just Trevor and I went out for a nice dinner and guess who else thought it was OK to tag along? HIS MOTHER. Not being mean but she would not shut up. She had a lot to tell me and him. She ratted him out on a few things that he didn't like but also telling him things that he needed to hear. Everything I told him he confirmed. Finally I said to her "OK, can we please be left alone?" Well she was not having that. She came over and sat down beside me and planned on staying as long as we were.  I was not forceful with her to make her go because it was his mother and it was all new for him. Still talking up a storm, she then continues to rat on his sister Shirley who was back at the house. I was being told that she is drinking quite a bit tonight. When she said this, I kind of felt she was saying it like maybe Shirley was drinking to much.  (Not possible, lol) She was on vacation.

Later when we got back to his place we told her that we got a visit from her mom and told her what she said. She said that while we were gone, all of the sudden the ice dispenser started to dispense ice. We all got a chuckle. 
You see spirit will say what they feel is important and apparently the messages she was giving were for all 3 of us. 

I am so thankful to be able to bring people messages that are needed at the right time. 

Oh a follow-up..... Shirley went back home and was talking to her other brother about what I do and he quickly dismissed it because what I do is unbelievable. lol Well after Shirley told him of the things that happened and the messages that were given he says to Shirley " do you think the next time you go you can ask her some questions for me?"

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Love and Energy
Lynn Troop

One year ago today a very strong, determined, loving, unique and caring man passed away.... my brother Curtis. 
1 &1/2 years ago I took a drive across the country and one of the many stops I made was in PA where I grew up. I was visiting my Nephew Shawn and while there I kept getting the feeling that I must go visit my oldest brother Curt while I was there because it would be the last time I would see him alive and it was a strong feeling. He was a few hours drive away but I made it happen. While I was there on the visit he said " I kind of expected you and Brian (my youngest brother) to come in together because I feel it would be the last time we would see each other".  That to me was confirmation something was going to happen. It was a really nice visit. He was able to make some special meals for me. He really enjoyed cooking and eating. lol

November 6, 2015 while I  was sitting at my dinning room table looking for quotes to post for Soul To Soul, I get the call. I can only explain the feeling of leaving my body and no longer being coherent. As a child growing up you always know your parents are going to pass because no matter what age they are, to you, they are old. I NEVER thought about losing a sibling. I was stunned and could not absorb what I was just told. As I sat there in disbelief, I heard " I am ok baby girl, I love you". He was the oldest and I am the youngest so he would always call me baby girl. I proceeded to call the family to break the heart wrenching news..... Curtis just passed away from Diabetes complications. Time after time silence and then tears and then our calls were ended so people could mourn and collect themselves.

Things were already crazy busy with changes in my life and moving but I had to drop everything and fly into PA because Curtis wanted Brian and I to take care of his final wishes. He had his funeral planned out. He wanted it a certain way but even with that, how can we function when we were given such horrible news. Its like I was not present in my body. We had many stumbling blocks there but we got it done according to his wishes. It was beautiful and just the way he wanted it.

I was trying hard to take some time to find something on the internet that I could read from my heart to Curtis so that I would have something to focus on and not cry. Shawn (his son) came to me and asked if we could dedicate GO REST HIGH ON THAT MOUNTAIN 
(Please go to the link and listen, what a beautiful song)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SdO6mW_B34M
and I said of course. So I looked for this version so people could read and feel the words as it was being played. I was still arranging things for that morning and all the last minute things that still needed to be taken care of. Frantically in between all that was going on and still looking for something special to read from me to him.... this appeared.....

 
At the time I took it as a message he wanted me to read for everyone, so this is what I read. Now, a year later as I sit here and type I know this was a message mostly for me. You see, I am so use to giving messages to others and helping others with their loss that I totally missed this message for myself. The service was surreal. My brother stood up and said his beautiful piece, we streamed the song to a screen and I read the above message. 
Afterwards we all went to the cemetery and then the entire family went across the street to have a beer and toast my brother Curtis and we shared great times and memories. Now the next part I am going to tell you I now understand why it happened. 

After the funeral and donating his things and all of us getting his belongings and apartment taken care of, I flew home to Colorado Springs Colorado because I was to be leaving for Bermuda in 3 days. It was a bitter sweet visit as I got to spend some much needed time with family as well. Continuing on with my hectic life, I flew home and had to pack right away (and deal with a flooded basement in my home that happened while I was gone). So 3 days after arriving home I headed back to Denver to stay in a hotel that night because of an early flight the next morning. The entire trip from Colorado Springs to Denver I was craving a cup of coffee. I went directly to the hotel to check in so I could relax. I checked in and thought there would be a coffee maker in the room but there wasn't. I went down to the front desk and asked if they had coffee any where. She said I have an instant packet of coffee and the hot water machine is in the kitchenette area. I said at this point I will take anything.

I usually never drink coffee at night but I felt like I needed a "fix" thats how bad I wanted it. So she gave me the packet and I went over and got a cup and poured the coffee in. Then I moved over to the coffee / hot water dispensing machine to add water. It was the kind that had the digital read  out that said "coffee brewing" or "hot water".  I looked at the display and on it was the word  CURTIS.  I almost fell to the floor. Right there was a message from my brother so soon after the funeral. He wanted to take the time when my mind was not so full to let me know he was there with me. I felt like I was on cloud nine. I finally realized how other people feel when I give them a message from a loved one. You never know how they are going to communicate with us to give us a message. Just be open and ready to receive it.

I had a hard time dealing with the feeling that I felt I didn't do anything special for him at the funeral and I was worried he would think I didn't love him. (Yes my human mind gets in the way of my spiritual being sometimes)
I got a call when I got back from Bermuda from a doctors office confirming an appointment. I was still in a daze somewhat and said ok and went the next day. Here, it was a mental health counselor. I never made that appointment!!!! I figured I am here in the office that I will finish the appointment. She was asking me if I am depressed, so on and so forth so I told her what all I had been through in a short period of time. I was very edgy and felt like I was wasting my time. She said "you know he is around you and he is never gone". I said "look I already know all that, I didn't want to say anything for fear of being perceived as being crazy but I am a medium and I talk to dead people".

So I kind of had this attitude that I was wasting my time. I told her that I was upset and that I felt that I didn't do anything special for my brother at his funeral or had even taken the time to mourn him properly. The only thing I remember her saying was " Didn't you give him the funeral of his wishes and then some? Don't you think that was special and important to him?" That was what I needed to hear and realize. When I do things for people I do it out of the kindness of my heart and never look at it as something special to the other person. A valuable and much needed lesson to be learned that day. I feel as though my brother set that entire appointment up for me to get the message from him that I did do something special for him. 

I know this might sound strange but my brother was dying to die. He could not wait to be with his beloved wife Patty. Even though it is hard for us to lose someone we love very dearly it is comforting to know they are with other loved ones on the other side and that they are happy. So on this one year anniversary Curtis. Even after searching for another hour this morning I still couldn't find the perfect poem but here you go Curtis   I love you